I have been satisfied with beancount. https://github.com/beancount/beancount and fava as a ui. It’s text based so it is easy to automate imports and exports. It can seem daunting at first to create importers in Python, but it’s pretty basic scripting.

Text based accounting lends itself well to easy experimentation with version control.

I tried gnucash for a while, but it felt so slow and not flexible enough for me.

I have had basically no issues with my setup: Edgerouter 4 (overkill, had a lower end Edgerouter earlier with no issues except the power adapter died, other hardware was fine). Some pretty basic unifi AP. As well as some cheap dumb gigabit switches. Can basically fire and forget them. Relatively easy to do most things I need on it. Never needed a reboot outside of upgrades. No stability issues, unlike basically all other home grade all in one stuff I have experienced in the past.