StarkZarn

I’m not sure you understand what “objectively” actually means… Care to provide your data in support of your objective conclusion?

Ran into a similar conundrum. We use mealie for recipe management and occasionally meal planning, but the shopping list is clunky. We resorted to just making a list on a card in Planks. Not purpose-built, but it has worked rather well for us.

I don’t know how you got a picture of me, but I demand it is removed!

You don’t need haproxy on the vps at all, unless I’m misunderstanding you. Just route the traffic using iptables hooks in your wireguard config. This is exactly how I manage my email server and it’s entirely transparent.